Everyone has their ideal concept of what their relationships are going to look like. Falling for a person and having the entire thing be sunshine and rainbows, but in no world is this realistic. People are different. They are raised differently, have different experiences, different beliefs, and so much more that can hinder a relationship. These differences can often cause arguments and disagreements to be worked through, but at what point are two people just too different?
People often have their list of traits or qualities they want to see in a partner. These things that make a person perfect for them. However, what often happens is a person will find a potential partner that fits some or most of these qualities, and then overlook a few things they may not like or think they can change. Sometimes these red flags are small and can eventually be ignored; on the other hand, they might cause tension and resentment between two people who don’t know when to just let go. People’s fundamental differences in morals and beliefs can often be overlooked when it comes to relationships. They fall into a relationship that’s built on the shallow things they like about each other, while slowly trying to change each other to fit their perfect molds.
Oftentimes, the heart and brain are on two different wavelengths. Love and logic don’t always work in tandem. The struggle is often figuring out when to start listening to logic instead of letting the heart decide which way things are headed. The brain may be telling one all the reasons why this relationship, which seems like a person’s whole world, does not work. Those aforementioned fundamental differences don’t just go away, no matter what the heart is saying. Even still, the heart will combat that thought process just as hard, with how strong one’s connection with this person is and all the good things about them. This is why a person needs to be smart with the relationships they choose to be in. Because ignoring those differences from the beginning only makes it harder to leave in the end when it doesn’t work.
Overall, life is hard to navigate, and using one’s judgment when it comes to relationships isn’t always the easiest thing to do. Life is there to throw us a curveball or two, with lessons to be learned from them. So even if one ends up making the wrong decision, they can only learn from it. What’s important is not letting those negative decisions outweigh the positive ones, and letting them only come a few and far between for the sake of one’s own sanity.
